Click here to subscribe to my blog via RSS!Hi Friends, I hope you had a wonderful weekend. I was reading over some of my New Year’s Resolutions from January this morning and remembered the word that I chose to orient my year. It was Balance. Need I say more? I’m not doing such a good job. I work too hard and play [...]
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My Husband is Draining Our Finances With His Addiction. I Don’t Know What to Do.
Happy Monday Friends, I had a great weekend speaking in the DC area to Life Christian Counseling Network. Dr. Chris Buckingham heads a great organization where over forty Christian counselors provide Christian counseling in various churches throughout the DC area. Next week I’ll be speaking closer [...]
He Says He’s Sorry, Sort Of, But Now What Do I Do?
This week’s question: I am currently deciding whether to separate from my emotionally abusive husband. After months of asking for help, his family has staged an intervention of sorts. I am trying to be positive about it, but it seems it is a little late, as I am so, so weary. I am now [...]
More About Boundaries and Consequences
Today’s Question: Since you’ve been talking about boundaries, I have a question related to waiting/holding my boundaries in an emotional destructive relationship. After about a year and a half of counseling, studying, praying, learning and with the accountability of several strong prayer partners . . . . I began confronting some things about my [...]
I Feel Guilty For Setting Boundaries
Good morning friends, I’m in Chicago visiting my parents just before I head out to Grand Rapids to speak at Ada Bible Church Tuesday night. If you’re in the area, I would love to meet you. If you’d like to attend, go to dschwarz@adabible.org to sign [...]
Men Are Abused Too
Morning friends, Thank you for all your prayers. My new book, The Emotionally Destructive Marriage, has gone through the 2nd editing stage, and I am so happy with it. I hope you will be too. It has a new test to determine if your marriage is destructive, as well [...]
Does God Want Me To Suffer?
Morning Friends, This week’s topic is one that underlies most Biblical counsel women in destructive marriages receive. It is something that we must understand if we are going to wisely deal with a destructive spouse. It is the issue of suffering Suffering is universal, and we will all experience it at some point in [...]
Raising Good Sons
Good morning friends, I’m in sunny California celebrating my granddaughter’s third birthday. She is such a joy to watch growing up. She wanted to be a princess, so here are some pictures of her in her princess dress as well as pictures of her two sisters enjoying her birthday party. In light of the [...]
Desperate Wife Needs Answers: Does She Need to Repent?
Question: I don’t know how to write you to express my sense of desperation for help right now in my marriage. I have been married for 35 years, and my husband and I have been going through crises off and on for the last 7 years. Currently, through a course of very complicated events [...]
What’s the Difference Between a Difficult, Disappointing and Destructive Marriage?
Good morning friends: Is it possible to mistake outspokenness for emotionally destructive speech? How do we tell the difference between a difficult relationship, a disappointing one, and a relationship that is destructive? This week’s question: I come from an abusive background (physical, emotional, verbal). I am divorced for more than 3 years. I’m dating a [...]